Notes on people

What is "Decentering" in Trauma Therapy?

Is your "decentering" a tool for healing or an "autopsy" of the self? Explore the risks of intellectualization in trauma recovery and learn how to practice self-distancing with warmth, compassion, and genuine emotional connection.

The NDE Paradox: Why Dying Might Be the Ultimate Catalyst for Living Fully

Near-death experiences are profound catalysts for personality transformation, going beyond mere biological events. Discover how NDE survivors shift radically from materialism to altruism. Learn methods to achieve a similar state of ego dissolution without the trauma, reclaiming inner peace and a renewed zest for life in the everyday.

Should I choose "Active Resignation"?

Resigning isn’t just quitting—it’s a career asset restructuring. Overcome the "sunk cost fallacy," stop using anxiety to avoid action, and learn how to let your new identity emerge during your career gap.

Why Are You Afraid to Spend After Hitting Your "Number"?

Beyond the math: Explore the hidden psychological challenges of the FIRE movement. From identity crises to hyper-saving anxiety, learn how to find purpose and reclaim sovereignty over your life after early retirement.

5 Best Personality Tests to Understand Your Attachment Style in 2026

Most attachment quizzes are just labels. I tested the 5 best tools for 2026—from clinical deep dives to Moody Wonder—to see which ones actually help you grow, not just diagnose you.

Why Is Everyone Switching to “Power Saving Mode” in 2026?

If you’ve recently felt that replying to messages is a chore or that you lack the energy to force small talk at dinner parties, congratulations: you have likely entered **“Mental Power Saving Mode.”**

Beyond the Finish Line: What Comes After FIRE?

“Financial Independence” is often framed as the ultimate life goal. However, as a psychological observer, I see a different reality: when a person no longer needs to trade their time for survival, their true psychologica

When We Practice "Decentering," Who is Observing the Observer?

When we apply **“Decentering”** to look back at our past traumas, a critical question arises:

Pomodoro Doesn't Work for Me: 3 ADHD-Friendly Alternatives

In the world of “productivity gurus,” the **Pomodoro Technique** is often treated as the holy grail. 25 minutes of focus, 5 minutes of rest—simple, efficient, and supposedly perfect.

After Quitting, I Realized “Anxiety” Is More Exhausting Than the 9-to-5

Many people think that voluntarily resigning is an act of total liberation.

Have you ever had a near death experience?

Years ago, a former classmate shared his own encounter with death with me.

Does anyone else still have major phone anxiety? I can text for hours but I panic the moment the phone rings

Just now, the phone on my desk started vibrating violently without any warning.😵‍💫😵‍💫 😵‍💫 In that split second, my heart skipped a beat, and my breathing grew tight. It feels so absurd.😣 😣 😣 I can spend hours

How to Tactfully Tell Your ESTJ Boss That Their Plan Won’t Work (A Discussion on Communication)

I have seen a lot of people complaining about their "Te dominant" bosses lately. As it happens, I have been navigating a relationship with a quintessential **ESTJ (The Executive)** manager myself.🥲

Confession | Describing my deepest fears. Can you take a guess at my MBTI type?

Lately, after staying in one place for a long time, I have fallen into a state of self-examination that feels like a total vacuum.

Are ENFP and INTJ Truly a "Golden Pair"?

As someone who has spent years lurking in personality psychology circles and various online MBTI communities as a “theory observer,” I have to throw a bucket of cold water on this so-called “Golden Pair” right from the s

What Exactly is a "Memory Dividend"?

A few days ago, while my assistant was helping me with a Schengen visa application, I had a sudden urge to flip through my old passport.

How to Achieve a Quiet Mind🧠

Lately, my brain has been filled with a constant, lingering noise. It feels like white noise, and when I close my eyes, I can almost see patterns that look like television static.

2026: When We Talk About "Tech Anxiety," What Are We Really Talking About?

We used to think of AI as just a tool, like a knife in a chef’s hand. But now, that knife has started chopping the vegetables, balancing the flavors, and plating a seemingly perfect dish in a single second.

ADHD: How to Drive Your "Ferrari Brain" (A Self-Help Guide via Dr. Hallowell)

Most of us have been told our whole lives that we have an “attention deficit.” But in reality, the issue isn’t a lack of attention. It’s that we have *too much* attention—so much that we can’t always control where it lan

Are "Mirror Types" actually the most slept-on dynamic in MBTI? (INFJ/ENFP, INTJ/ENTP etc.)

Honestly, I’ve been deep-diving into cognitive functions for a while now, and everyone always talks about the "Golden Pair" (like INFJ/ENTP) or the "Same-Type Soulmates." But can we discuss mirror c**omplementary relatio

INFP Career Paths: Is it possible to thrive in Corporate without selling your soul in 2026?

As an **INFP**, the “Corporate World” often feels like a foreign land where our native language—**authenticity**—isn’t spoken. For years, the narrative was that we had to “toughen up” or “mask” our values to survive the

Using the Big Five Personality Model to Make Your First Job Fit Your Growth

Using the MBTI Model to Choose Your First Job

Using the Holland RIASEC Model to Choose Your First Job

The Spectrum Within: Why No Two INFJs (or Any Type) Are Exactly Alike

Discover why no two INFJs (or any personality type) are identical. Explore how health, experiences, culture, and traits shape individuality beyond MBTI® labels, with real-world examples celebrating the spectrum within each type.

Nature, Nurture, or Narrative? Untangling the Roots of Personality

What shapes our personality - genes, environment, or the stories we tell ourselves? This article explores the science behind personality development, revealing how nature, nurture, and personal agency interact to create the ever-evolving self.

Finding Your Flow at Work: Personality-Based Strategies for Combating Burnout

Discover how your personality type shapes your burnout triggers and recovery needs. This guide offers tailored strategies for each personality (Analysts, Diplomats, Sentinels, Explorers) to restore energy, prevent exhaustion, and find sustainable flow at work.

Communication Crossroads: Decoding the Language of Different Personality Types

Explore how personality types (E/I, S/N, T/F, J/P) shape communication styles. Learn to bridge gaps in expression, feedback, and conflict resolution with practical 'translation guides' for work and relationships.

Beyond the Acronym: What Your MBTI Type Really Says About Your Cognitive Wiring

Dive beyond MBTI stereotypes. This article reveals how your 4-letter type reflects a dynamic hierarchy of cognitive functions (Ni, Se, Fi, Te, etc.), shaping how you process information, make decisions, and interact with the world. Discover the hidden wiring behind your personality.

The Strengths in the Shadows: Embracing Your ‘Inferior’ Function

Discover how Jung's "inferior function" holds hidden strengths. Learn to recognize stress-induced emotional overreactions, harness this shadow aspect for creativity, and integrate it for personal growth. Practical strategies included for each personality type.