Framework

The 3 Boundaries Check types

Four kinds of line — responsibility, emotion, other people, and your own time — each of which can be firm in one place and missing in another. The types below describe where yours hold and where they give way, which is usually more specific than people expect.

Take the Boundaries Check test20 questions · 3 min · free

How the result is decided

Every answer feeds one overall score, and that score falls into one of 3 bands. The bands are levels of the same thing, not different kinds of person.

Responsibility BoundariesEmotional BoundariesInterpersonal BoundariesTime & Space Boundaries

All 3 types

The Open Doorabout 30% of peopleYou say yes before you've checked whether you mean it, and the resentment shows up later, uninvited.

The Held Lineabout 42% of peopleYou can hold a line and still let someone in, though staying that steady costs you more than you let on.

The Fortressabout 28% of peopleYour walls are solid enough to keep everyone out, including the ones who'd have stayed if you'd let them try.

Is this you?

The Boundaries Check test is 20 questions and takes about 3 minutes. Your result carries your own numbers, not just the name.

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